One-On-One

Let's not sugarcoat things. Having 5 month old triplets, 2 toddlers, 2 preteens and 2 teens is STRESSFUL. It's stressful on so many levels. It's stressful on the kids. On the parents. On a marriage. On the family. On EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE. Sometimes I feel as if we are all just barely hanging on.

So far we seem to be doing fairly "ok". Sometimes I have to sit back and watch to be absolutely sure that everyone is doing ok. I still feel that it's my job to keep everyone happy. I've tried to delegate some of that to Aaron, but I have a hard time letting go of that control. Between the 11 of us, we've had a few meltdowns, and a few arguments.

I do notice that Noah is the one that seems to get swept under the rug, so to speak. Many things that he wants to do, don't get done. We have a tendency to think that his wants/needs aren't as important because they mostly revolve around trips to GameStop. But that is when I sit back, and realize that it's important to him. Just because its not soccer practice, a basketball game, work, or a Dr's appointment, doesn't make it any less important. He also doesn't give us grief if we can't do things. The kid is just GOOD.

So last weekend, Noah and I went to GameStop. Then pizza. Just us. Two things that he wanted to do. Two things that were important to him.

I've decided that the one-on-one time needs to be our first priority.

Today, Lilah wanted to take a shower with me. She was in Heaven. Just her and Mommy for 20 whole minutes. She did keep asking "Where da babies?" So, I know she loves them. Even if they are alot of work and very time consuming for me right now.

We will continue to work on the one-on-one with all the kids. It may be our biggest challenge yet, but definately our most important one!